Does your brain ever feel like this…
I can only speak for myself but it couldn’t be more accurate!! I actually made my way around this brain two and a half times before I realized I had already read through those bullet points. Its no wonder self-care is stressed for social workers everywhere! As a social worker with a brain similar to the one above I am constantly thinking about others and how I serve them.
- Feeling guilt when a friend or family member has a problem
- Compelled to fix my friend’s or families’ feelings
- Trying to anticipate the needs of those most dear to me
- Wondering if anyone will ever do the same for me…
Okay so this sounds a little codependent I admit but…I believe they are the root of what makes a social worker or clinician skilled at empathizing and building rapport.
I used to think I was the greatest catch because I had the ability to empathize, love and sacrifice for a partner. In some ways I wasn’t wrong but…I did not factor in the darker side of the dating pool. A side I thought social work also gave me an edge on because of my background on personality disorders and at risk behavior…It didn’t!
I was in a relationship with a narcissist. It felt real, beautiful, perfect…like I met my soul mate. In the following series, The Dark Side of the Dating Pool, I want to share what I have found regarding
- first base with a narcissist
- phases of a relationship with a narc
- red flags to stop ignoring
- breaking upwards